{"id":2668,"date":"2023-09-20T09:39:24","date_gmt":"2023-09-20T09:39:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/?p=2668"},"modified":"2024-07-13T12:12:01","modified_gmt":"2024-07-13T12:12:01","slug":"too-much-binge-behavior-is-not-the-problem-its-the-symptom-of-a-deeper-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/too-much-binge-behavior-is-not-the-problem-its-the-symptom-of-a-deeper-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Too-much binge behavior is not the problem, it\u2019s the symptom of a deeper problem"},"content":{"rendered":"

So often my mindset coaching clients tell me how much they binge watching Netflix, binge eating snacks, or binge shopping stuff when they’re “supposed to” get some work done, go to gym, save money, etc.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

And those behaviors feel good at the moment, but bring them more guilt, shame, frustration, self-blame and self-criticism. <\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n

Ironically, deep down their true desire is to feel peaceful and content about themselves.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn’t happen to just unmotivated people who just want self indulgence.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

This pattern appears in many of my very hard working, perfectionistic, highly performance driven clients who seek help from trauma release work.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Many people who have excellent track records in work or life achievement also—<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Carry a much deeper level of self-imaging insecurity of \u201cI’m not good enough” that might have been rooted for long and caused lack of confidence and self acceptance.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Does that sound like you?<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

This drives the perfectionistic high-level expectations to self, with all the rigid requirements and self enforcing behaviors to keep pushing and overwhelming you. <\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n

But you forget that you’re a human, not a machine. Even a machine needs to be maintained, and a human cannot be exhausting the body and mind without any chance to recharge.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

When the body and mind are already burning out but the high expectation is unwilling to reset the rigidity, the disappointment and frustration kick in and enhance the anxiety.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

The more anxious and worried you feel about the “performance” according to the rigid bar of standard, the more you’re misaligned with the true emotional desire.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

So when the more the parts of you that want to comfort you feel that inner disturbance, the more compensation of seeking temporary relief\/distraction happens, hence over compensation with binge do-ing.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why if you only force yourself with strict routines, the unsatisfied emotional needs and the overcompensating parts will cry out harder “what about me” and bounce with stronger resistance.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Then the rigid part feels insecure (not good enough) and pushes back more, so you feel greater inner conflicts like a tension pulling you to one end or the other.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on the discipline on the surface (which throws you out of balance more), bring yourself to growing the centered, open, aware, connected, holding (COACH) mental state.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

There are many ways in hypnotherapy to bring yourself in, come back to YOU, settle in and settle down, return to that COACH state. <\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n

That’s what I guide my clients to learn in rapid transformational therapy work.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

With me, part of your practice is also to notice what tool(s) have you used to bring yourself back to COACH state?<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

How do you feel afterwards? What are you aware of now that they didn’t realize before?<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I get so many “wow that makes sense” a-ha head nods with my life coaching clients, when they connect all the dots together. <\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n

It’s simple but not simplistic.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why I love these light-bulb moments. The elegant delivery of the mind puts all the puzzles together, when the right switch is turned on.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Are you still looking for the switch, or the room that has the switch? Let’s have a chat. <\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So often my mindset coaching clients tell me how much they binge watching Netflix, binge eating snacks, or binge shopping stuff when they’re “supposed to” get some work done, go to gym, save money, etc. And those behaviors feel good at the moment, but bring them more guilt, shame, frustration, self-blame and self-criticism. Ironically, deep […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":827,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[256],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2668","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-emotional-management"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2668"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2668"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2668\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2748,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2668\/revisions\/2748"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/827"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2668"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2668"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.caring-nature.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2668"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}